Celebrating What Makes You Unique
Feeling like you don’t fit the mould of what is attractive, successful and likeable can be difficult. We would be willing to hedge our bets and say that almost all women feel anxious or inadequate from time to time, even though we all have something unique and wonderful to offer the world.
And at House of LUX, though we definitely think you should embrace your little beauty quirks like the birthmark under your arm or the way your hair always sticks up in one spot, we believe that women are more than just their appearances. How do you stop wishing you were more and realise that you are enough? Here are our top tips!
Comparing yourself to others is the easiest way to feed your insecurities and start the train of thinking you’re probably all too familiar with. “If only I could change this. I wish I was more like that. I could never be as pretty/kind/successful as her.” So if you’re trawling the internet for beauty tips so that you can have hair as thick as your colleague or wondering how you can stop that “annoying” habit of talking too much when you’re passionate about something, stop!
Another easy rule to follow when your inner self-critic raises her voice? If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, family member or partner then it isn’t constructive criticism. It also isn’t a case of being “honest” or “realistic.” Nope, it’s harsh self-judgement. If saying those words to a loved one would make you feel mean and guilty, why would you say them about yourself?
Instead of focusing on how to prove yourself to others, focus on how to improve your self-worth. Aim to make yourself happier in your own skin, and don’t change just because somebody else said you should! We believe that every woman should celebrate the things that make her stand out from the crowd, and shout them from the rooftops.
If you’re lacking confidence or obsessing over your supposed weaknesses, why not flip things around? Women are unfortunately much better at noticing their “flaws” than their strengths even though we’re aware that knowing your strengths is key to celebrating what makes you unique and wonderful in your own way. What you might not have thought about though, is that the quirks which make you different are actually your strengths.
Sure, they might feel like very heavily disguised strengths at times, but there’s definitely a strength hiding away there, if you just look for it. A person who is quiet and shy because they stutter probably has excellent listening skills. Perhaps your most annoying or strangest character trait is actually what will see you start a business, cultivate an amazing friendship, or inspire your children to be the best version of themselves.